KEY #3: ASSEMBLE AN ATTRACTIVE PERSONALITYBeing able to adapt yourself quickly to changing circumstances and emergencies without panic or loss of temper is a significant skill as you struggle toward success.
The yes-man is a universal object of derision precisely because everyone recognizes his insincerity.
The cheapest and most profitable quality in the world is courtesy.
There is a right moment and a wrong moment for everything. Tact is the habit of doing and saying the right thing at the right moment.
Here is a list of the most common ways people show their lack of tact:
1. Carelessness in their tone of voice, often speaking in gruff, antagonistic tones.
2. Speaking out of turn when silence would be more appropriate.
3. Interrupting others who are speaking.
4. Overworking the personal pronoun so that every sentence features the word "I."
5. Asking impertinent questions, often to impress others with their own importance.
6. Injecting intimately personal subjects into the conversations when such subjects are embarrassing to others.
7. Going where they have not been invited.
8. Boastfulness.
9. Flouting social norms in matters of attire.
10. Making calls at inconvenient hours.
11. Holding people on the telephone with needless conversations.
12. Writing letter that are overly familiar to people they hardly know.
13. Volunteering unsolicited opinions on any subject under the sun, without regard to their knowledge.
14. Openly questioning the soundness of others' opinions.
15. Declining requests from others in an arrogant manner.
16. Speaking disparagingly of people in front of their friends.
17. Rebuking people who disagree with them.
18. commenting on people's disabilities.
19. Correcting subordinates and colleagues in the presence of others.
20. Complaining when requests for favors are refused.
21. Presuming upon friendship in asking for favors.
22. Using profane and offensive language.
23. Expressing dislikes at a drop of a hat.
24. Dwelling on ills or misfortunes.
25. Complaining about politics or religion.
26. Displaying general over familiarity
Controlling the tone of your voice so that it carries meaning beyond mere words in invaluable.
Don't underestimate the importance of a frequent and sincere smile in making your personality appealing to others -- or its effect on yourself.
You can tell a great deal about what is going on in people's minds by the expressions on their faces.
Tolerance is the disposition to be patient and fair toward those whose opinions, practices, and beliefs differ from yours.
A well-developed sense of humor aids you in becoming flexible and adaptable to the varying circumstances of life.
Faith is woven into every principle of the philosophy of achievement; faith is the essence of every great achievement, no matter what its nature or purpose.
There is more to effective speech than the vital aspect of appropriate word choice. Combining frankness, word choice and other aspects of a pleasing personality will make you a powerful communicator able to speak with conviction and persuasion, whether you are addressing a convention, a roundtable, or one person.
There's an adage: "Know what you wish to say, say it with all the feeling you command, and then sit down!"
No matter how much you know about the field of your endeavor, unless you can display a general interest in the world at large, no one is going to find you attractive.
Impatience with others is a visible expression of selfishness and lack of self-discipline.
Arrogance, vanity, and egotism are never found in someone with an attractive personality. Don't mistake humility for timidity; true humility is a recognition that even the great folk are, in the scheme of human existence, only fragments of the hole. Recognize that the blessing you have a re a gift to be used for the common good, not topics for every conversation.
From Napoleon Hill's Keys To Success
