I have been re-reading "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen R. Covey -- what an amazing book! Habit #2 is "Begin with the end in mind." In other words, you must have a detailed vision of what you want before you can start building it. The best coaches are the ones that have a specific vision of their program and share that vision with those on their team. Having the vision is critical but you must be able to help those involved see and believe in that same vision. It is true with coaching each individual. You must have a vision as to what you see here becoming as a player and than articulate it to her and help her see the same vision. Only then, can special things start to grow.
Here is a wonderful, short video from Covey talking about the 2nd Habit:
